I am in a sexless marriage. Not a loveless one, but one that is very very vanilla and I am craving the need to explore. There is a very personal reason behind this and if you want to find out, come and ask me and i'll tell you all about it. I am at all times genuine, open and honest. I want to find someone to explore the kinkier side of life with, pegging, role reversal, domination, outdoors fun. I have never had anal sex with a woman and would love to just meet someone who doesn't just want to have 5 minutes of missionary sex twice a year. I would say I see myself as more submissive, but happy to switch roles if the occasion is warranted. For obvious reasons I cannot accomodate but can travel within reason. I also won't publish a face pic, but I will send one if we get chatting and get along. I'll fill this in more as I go along Chris

My Ideal Person Someone who is not judgemental, and is open minded.

I need to laugh in my life, if you cannot turn me on with your mind, with your sense of humour, and without bein gin my company, then we won't get along. Physical attraction is obviously important, but not more important than being able to stimulate my mind.

I cannot accommodate, so ideally you would be able to, but someone who is open for a walk in the country with occasional stops for filthy fun in the open, or whatever else can be accomplished.

I would even just love to find someone to meet for coffee, have a chat, have some intimacy and passion. A kiss in the corner, maybe even see how far we can drive each other crazy without making anyone else aware what we are up to...

Just in an ideal world, a fun, relaxed person, in the same situation as me, who is discrete.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
To be tied up on a bed by a woman <br><br>
She keeps me there for hours, fucks me with her strapon,
sits on my face, rides my cock for her own pleasure <br><br>
Uses me as her own toy for her pleasure, not mine

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
The beach, A moving vehicle (i.e. car), The middle of a park, A dark back alley, A movie theatre, A remote wilderness spot, My desk at work, A store dressing room

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Cross Dressing, Mutual Masturbation, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Fisting

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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